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The Triple Goddess of ancient times lives on, as
relevant now as in the Matriarchal cultures of "prehistory" (before
10,000BC). She is the Maiden Mother Crone, Persephone Demeter Hecate. These
three phases of a woman's life were reflected in the Earth's seasons.
Maiden - spring, Mother - summer and autumn, Crone - winter. Each phase or
season of a woman's life has a rite of passage that set its theme and
gives information to the woman about how her particular culture values her
new role and what is expected of her.
| Rite of
Passage |
Life
Season |
Rite of
Passage |
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Birth |
Maiden |
Menarche |
| Childbirth |
Mother |
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| Menopause |
Crone |
Death |
The developments and discoveries
of our modern scientific and medical technologies have over the last ten
centuries given us another life season. Simply put, we live longer than
our ancestors. In the time of the ancient Triple Goddess we had babies at
14, were grandmothers at 30 and dead at 45. Now if we are well, we can
live to 100 plus years. The ancient Triple Goddess now can be extended to
the Four Phase Feminine Way.
| Rite of
Passage
|
Life Season
|
Rite of Passage
|
Age
|
Corresponding Earth Season
|
| Birth
|
Maiden
|
Menarche
|
Say 0
- 25
|
Spring
|
| Childbirth
|
Mother
|
|
Say 25 -
50
|
Summer
|
| Menopause
|
Maga
|
|
Say 50 - 70
|
Autumn/Fall
|
| Retirement
|
Crone
|
Death
|
Say 70 -
100+
|
Winter
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During a
recent visit to North America, just after my 47th birthday, I spent a weekend
with my mentor and friend, Cedar Barstowi , in Boulder Colorado. The Rocky
Mountain air was hot and clean, new baby birds chirped as they flew for the
first time. While my sons slept in, Cedar and I sat on her back deck over
looking her beautiful garden in full bloom, catching up after several years
apart.
I told Cedar about the book I was writing on the wisdom of the cycles and
proudly showed her the 'Spinning Wheel - a Woman's Oracle of the Truth' that I
had created. The 'Spinning Wheel' functions with a series of spinning wheels
that enable a woman to line up her life season, the Earth's season, the moon
phase and where she is in her menstrual cycle, to "read" the energies that are
influencing her on any given day. This tool that came to me in a meditation,
helps a woman understand and make sense of her feelings, her thoughts and her
energy levels.
Cedar and I spoke about Rites of Passage that occur at the
beginning and end of each life season and she told me about the ceremony that
her spiritual community, EarthSong Ritual Dance Community, performed for her and
other women to mark their menopause and transition from Mother to Maga.
Maga?
"I'm no Crone yet," she said "far from it, I'm out there in the world earning my
living and I have much to give. I'm not wondering what I'm going to do with my
life anymore; I'm doing it! I have physical limitations, I'm not as young as I
used to be, like my day has an earlier 'quitting time', but I don't need so much
detailed prep' time for teaching and doing therapy. My life experience and the
wisdom it has brought me provide a stable and rich foundation." Cedar went on,
"I have arrived at my Self in this life season. I'm not trying to prove myself
and so I'm now driven by a desire to use my gifts and passions to give back. The
name Maga came from one of the women in our community, Sylvia Keepersii. An apt
and potent image, Maga was intended as the feminine version of Magus - the wise
man, magician."
Interesting, "arriving at my self." this phrase, relates to Dr
Christiane Northrup's statement in her book "The Wisdom of Menopause" likening
the symptoms of peri-menopause to labour - with the birth this time being giving
birth to you.
Cedar described her feeling starting out her Maga phase as a time
of "integration and pulling through and pulling together the biggest pieces of
my life work, my offering to the world." She described herself and her Maga
sisters as at a level of competence within their self-expression or careers.
They were enjoying freedom from the intense responsibilities and demands of
motherhood or the career climb. Comfortably confident, driven by a desire to
give back. For some, no more children has meant a chance to give back in a way
that there wasn't space or time for before. For others, like Cedar at 60, it is
"too late to start another career, my path is set." Their unique contributions
to the larger world are possible now and are motivated by what calls them. Cedar
described being less social than she was in her Mother season, but very involved
in her community. Mothers and Magas have an active and direct community
influence. The Crones, on the other hand, influence from a well-developed
presence visit and hold from the outer edges.
The Maga phase is the extended
Mother phase of the Triple Goddess, after Mother and before Crone. Maga is the
autumn season of a woman's life, the harvest, the integrative place of the west
on the wheel. The Crone is the winter season, the season of "retirement", life
review and letting go. The Crone's life is inwardly focussed, she is in
contemplation mode, a distillation of her life lived. She philosophises, tells
stories, prays, gardens and gathers with other Crones. The changes to her body
and brain necessitate a quieter existence, which enables a ripened access to
spirit. There is spaciousness to her being-ness that takes her into the place of
the 'big picture' as opposed to detail. She is the wise woman.
Our culture has
seen the development over the last couple of decades, of an upward trend in
maternal age in western minority cultures. Many women put off their first
childbearing in favour of pursuing careers, often waiting until well into their
30's and even 40's to start their childbearing. This has given rise to Assisted
Reproductive Technology, resulting in many multiple births and caesarean section
deliveries. In these cultures, in addition to the creation of the Maga phase,
the Maiden phase and the Mother phase are also effected by scientific and
medical technological developments. The effects of this will be another story in
a few decades or so. Regardless of the effects of technology, these life seasons
are defined by the natural fertility cycle of a woman's life, menopause ends the
Mother season and starts the Maga season.
When a woman arrives at her Maga season as Mother Nature intended, her children
are older, well into their teens
or having left home as young adults. Her children need her less and their
process of separation has probably already begun. The turmoil of this separation
process combined with the labour pains of menopause truly does give the woman
the opportunity to give birth to a new version of her. Her role as Mother is
very different now: her children need her less and may reject her as part of
their individuation process. How this transitional period is negotiated and
supported by family, friends and society will determine the way she comes
through this rite of passage and who she will be on the other side.
The negative
Maga is the 'empty nester', she is a woman who has lost her sense of self as
mother and nothing else comes. Her life may feel empty, depressing and without
meaning. She could, with this mindset, become a premature Crone - withdrawing
from her life. Or, she could hear with 'the ears of her heart' or her "third ear
or intuition" (Jeannine Parvati Bakeriii) for what has 'heart and meaning'
(Angeles Arrieniv) for her and direct her still very strong and potent energy
wherever she chooses. Many women in their 50's pick up careers and interests
from their Maiden phase that may have gone 'part-time' during their mothering.
Some women start new ones. They have time now, focussed time. Cedar described it
as "finding a motivation more powerful and more effective than Will." She calls
it an organic and heart centred motivation that is much more pleasurable and
sensual than Will. She said "we need to surrender to this powerful force like we
surrendered to the birth force."
The Maga season seems to be a modern privilege
and responsibility. The privilege: Our lives today are "cushy" compared to even
100 years ago. Machines have replaced many of the tasks that would have taken up
most of our time to just survive. Cars, supermarkets and ovens have
substantially changed the time it takes to get a meal on the table. We go to the
gym for the exercise that we would have gotten from daily life tasks. In some
respects, this takes meaning away from our lives and in other respects it gives
us freedom to use our time and energy in unlimited ways. This then leads to…
The
responsibility: the Maga woman is needed as a strong conscience for the
community and society. She can, as Cedar explained, "hear and tell the truth
without shame or blame," and "stand in her strength while staying in heart".
Perhaps the essence of the drive 'to give back' comes from all that was 'given'
to the Mother - a way for her 'to give thanks'. Becoming the Grandmother she
cares about the world her grandchildren will be born into and does all she can
to help it be a safe, sustainable place. The Grandmothers of times past held the
final say on such matters as war. If this were still the case, the world might
be a different place now.
In "The Women's Wheel of Life" Elizabeth Davis and
Carol Leonard describe this season of a woman's life with the archetypes of the
Amazon, the Matriarch and the Priestess. Keywords and phrases for the Maga are:
harvesting one's life skills and talents, confidence, competence, assimilation,
integration, power, giving back, contributing, community mindedness, maturity,
presence, security, abundance, sharing, storing for the future, queen and
magician, knowing self.
Since my return to Australia I have shared this Maga
tale with women's circles, in my Women's Mysteries workshops and with many of my
friends and the prevailing, dominant response is "YES!" "This makes sense, this
feels right." "A whole new chapter in my life!"
As with all transitions there is
no one point when everything changes, like the seasons the change is gradual not
instant. Peri-menopause, peri meaning around, can take anywhere from 2 to 13
years. Once black hairs start appearing on a woman's top lip its about six years
before her monthly bleeding pattern starts to change.
Caroline, in her early
40's, feels the Maga phase beginning to affect her. "I am less social and less
interested in what's going on in the social world. Where once I would have got a
big kick out of being somewhere smart all dressed up, now I avoid large
impersonal gatherings, they feel like time wasted. I am less interested in how I
appear to the world, because I cannot help any more but be me. I feel that I
make more sense as an older person than I did in my 20's." Caroline has four
children aged 13, 11, 8 and 5, all were born in her 30's. Using the framework of
the Four Phase Feminine Way, she is able to understand her internal struggle in
juggling her children and her needs. "Whilst my advancing age is leading me to
begin the inward turn and to focus elsewhere, my small children keep dragging me
out of that place and at times I find that very hard. The pulls are equal and
opposite."
Irene at 53 feels "better in my skin than ever before, more at peace
and at one with what I perceive as my place in the universe. I am not as driven
by other peoples' ideas or their acceptance. I can look back with empathy to the
woman I was and the challenges I faced in my mothering phase. Although I feel an
occasional sadness that I can no longer bring to birth my own children, I have
the joys of grandchildren to look forward to." Through menopause, a single
mother of two adult children and 13 year old Tristan, Irene feels the essence of
the Maga phase "After getting through menopause a year or so ago I did not feel
the isolation and 'wintering' of the crone, Maga makes so much more sense. I
have in fact spent the last 12 months with a renewed vigour for study, both
esoteric and technological, and have many career related goals in mind." "I
shall sail through the Maga season, heart and mind billowing with fresh insights
and consolidated truths."
Anna, 57, remembers when she first starting thinking
about menopause "I thought of it as a death sentence. Women were depressed about
it coming; we weren't well informed. I was frightened; I thought I'd be old and
shrivelled up. Actually it was a gradual transition into a light space not a
dark space. Once my menopause symptoms stopped, I woke up. I have more time now
so I see things differently I see more beauty. I feel more responsible for
myself and to myself. I have a different kind of energy than I have had, a
slower pace with a renewed enthusiasm and newfound confidence. I please myself
now." Anna and I talked about the movement through the life seasons and we
decided that it could be characterized like this….. Maiden ~ carefree, Mother ~
responsibility, Maga ~ carefree responsibility, Crone ~ responsibly carefree!
At
70, Barbara feels the inward draw. She literally stays inside more, simply
because its more comfortable and with her sometimes difficult
movements,easier. She moves slowly from her place where she sits and
knits, either dolls for great grandchildren or hats for the earthquake
stricken people of Pakistan, to the kitchen. She prepares the meals, I am
most impressed with her use of every part of the ingredient, and she hates
waste. On her daily visit to the chicken pen, she pulls the weeds from the
garden for their food. She counts the ducks and notices how many more baby
rabbits there are. She speaks her mind, she cries, she feels angry at
injustices and joyous about her grandchildren's exploits. She tells me of
her grandchildren, my children, "You can't protect them from themselves."
these sound wise words.
The Crone speaketh.

iCedar Barstow, 2005, personal communication;
mailto:
Cedar@RightUseofPower.com
iiSylvia Keepers, 2000, personal communication;
mailto:
tdkeepers@shamanicarts.com
iiiJeannine Parvati Baker, 2004, personal
communication;
www.birthkeeper.com/
ivAngeles Arrien, The Four Fold Way: Walking the Paths of the Warrior, Healer, Teacher, and
Visionary. Harper Collins: 1993
iiv Jane Hardwicke Collings.
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